Some times, when a relationship is starting to crumble, emotions can run high. Certainly, there is never an excuse to justify committing an act of domestic violence on a spouse or a boyfriend/girlfriend. However, sometimes, situations arise and you find yourself baited into a situation you never expected or you do something impulsive and it leads to trouble.
Here’s an example: let’s say a wife suspects her husband is cheating on her. She goes to check his cell phone for text messages. The husband does not feel his wife has a right to check his phone so he goes to grab the phone. The two find themselves struggling to gain possession of the phone and in an instant, the phone smacks one of them in the face causing bleeding, a black eye, or broken nose, etc. Notice, I didn’t indicate whether the injured person was the male or female. This can happen to anyone! What happens next is anyone’s guess. . . the police may be called, someone may be charged with domestic violence and arrested, etc.
So, if your relationship is becoming increasingly volatile, the arguments are heating up, there is physical contact of any sort, etc., then you need to take steps to diffuse the situation. First, if you are a victim of domestic violence, you absolutely need to protect yourself and your children. Too often victims of domestic violence give the offender chances in hopes that he/she will change. Remember, domestic violence is not just the act of hitting someone. . . it can be intimidation, yelling/screaming, threatening, financial manipulation, etc. Nevertheless, if you are in physical danger, it is imperative that you protect yourself and your children by calling the police, pressing charges where appropriate and otherwise ensuring that the offender does not have access to you.